Regardless of where you are in your career or business, you have something to offer and something to learn. Do you reach back and give advice to others who are interested in or new to your industry? Or should you prepare for your next move by seeking the advice of someone that has been there and done that? The answer should be both.
Social media has made it possible to reach out or be introduced to anyone in the business world. In just one tweet of 140 characters or less, you can rub social media elbows with celebrities, millionaires and CEOs. You can join group “hang outs” with almost anyone. Use these tools to your advantage
Being A Mentee
Some mentors will reach out to you and offer assistance, but most will not. People can get caught up in their own projects, and time is limited. But if approached, most people will take the time to give you a word of advice or point you in the right direction. Don’t be shy about asking.
If you are starting a new business venture or career, finding a mentor should be at the very top of your to-do list. This is one of the most important things you can do for yourself. It will save you time, money and headaches.
To be a good mentee, you first need to realize that you do not know everything. Secondly, you must understand that most successful people, whether they admit it or not, received the help or advice of someone else in order to get where they are today.
Third, remember that your lessons may not always come from winners. Someone who failed at a venture may still be skilled, knowledgeable and able to warn you about roadblocks and pitfalls.
Some of the same principles that I talked about under “Being a mentor” also apply (in reverse) to finding a mentor. Identify a potential mentor and watch them for a while. When the time is right, make your move. In your approach, you can tell them how and why you admire them (flattery will get you everywhere, but be careful not to scare them by letting them know you have been cyber stalking them). Be brief, but include all of the main points below:
Tell them who you are. Keep it professional.Explain why you contacted them specifically and why you believe they will be a good mentor for you.Describe what you need from them (including a time commitment).Thank them for taking the time to consider your request.
If your request is accepted, be sure to respect the boundaries and terms you set beforehand. As you go into this partnership, have a plan so that you do not waste valuable time—but leave room in your agenda for open, unplanned conversation too.
Be a great listener and don’t be argumentative, even when you don’t agree with the advice given. And remember, this is your life. The mentor will not give you all of the answers or do the heavy lifting for you. Showing them you are invested in your own life and plan will keep them engaged and wanting to help.
Lastly, remember not to be just a taker. Give. Reach out to your mentor to just say hello, thank you, happy birthday, etc. Even though this is a business relationship, show them you care and appreciate their time.
Be inspired, be empowered
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